I dream of There. I dream because I can. I dream because nothing can stop me. I control every moment and I create every second. I dream because dreaming takes me to places that I never thought I could go. Until the yearning for distant places has subsided I’ll continue to dream. I’ll continue to imagine myself learning new languages and seeing new sights. I’ll dream endless things and endless adventures. I can hear the sounds from afar and with every second that I dream I am one step closer to my reality. There will always be some new place, some new unexplored part of the world that is awaiting my arrival. Dreaming of There is personal. It connects me to a part of my soul that craves the unknown. I dream of There, and I think I always will.
Seriously, please don’t ask, because I don’t know. The dreaded question, and probably the number one question we all hear at one point in our young lives. I mean I have an idea, we all do, but the real question is whether or not my wants will come to fruition. So what is it you ask? I’ll tell you if I must… “So what do you want to do with your life?” God I don’t know how many times I’ve heard that question, and if I cared at all to answer I might know the number.
Ask me the question, and you’ll get a look of disgust. A look that says, are you kidding me? Do you know that you are the five-hundredth person to ask me that? To you who brave asking me, I say “living,” because honestly that’s what I’m doing. I’m living, taking it one day at a time. If I spent every waking moment thinking about what I wanted to do with my life, I’d be stuck in a cycle of disappointment. I’m sure we’ve all wanted something so badly in our lives it hurt – something that we tell ourselves we would do anything to get. But how many of us actually take that desire a step further? How many of us take the necessary steps to escape this question? My guess is very few.
So right now I’m living. That’s really the best we can do. I’m not saying that I don’t look to change where I’m at. Goals are healthy; I think they push us along in life. They challenge us, they ignite a spark. But when you are consistently asked these types of questions, you honestly just want to walk the other way. I swear, I should have a shirt that reads: No, I’ll let you know when I do, thanks for asking.
For now, I’ll keep taking it day by day. I’ll keep waking up every morning, happy that I am able to share my life with those I love. Until the day comes that I know what I’m doing is what I’m meant to do, I’ll just be thankful for what I have now. I’ll keep exploring until I stumble on my perfect life, but please until this day of greatness comes, don’t ask me what I’m doing, because I don’t know.
Do you ever have that urge to just get away? Just dropping what you’re doing and leaving?
A break from what seems to trap us in the routine that many fall into. How lovely would it be to break the cycle? To say, “that’s it. I’m disrupting the mundane.”
Perhaps, it would be the most healthy thing we could do. Change is necessary. We’re not made to go through the same tedious motions. We need to experience, to hear new sounds, feel new things.
I don’t mean forever. Just for a few weeks. I think challenging ourselves and adventure are what make us better, and whether we step into a new environment or re-explore one that we have forgotten, accepting this need for change signals a transition.
But the key is having the courage to see that we all need a little separation, a little break from the cycle.
When we wander we usually find more than we are looking for. Often when we think we’re lost, we forget that with each step comes the excitement of the unknown. It just takes the courage to recognize that even the unfamiliar can bring new adventures, new hope. It requires an intimate look within, to accept that wandering does not mean you have lost your way through life. It does not mean that you have done something wrong, nor does it mean that you are any less worth the life you have been given. It just means that we each have our own path and that there are many opportunities and directions that we can choose to go.
So, the next time you find yourself questioning your purpose, your life, remember that wandering can bring with it the pleasure of something new, something that could change your life in a way that would have been impossible if you had decided to go right instead of left.
“Who lives sees, but who travels sees more”
What does it mean to leave it all behind? To make the decision to just go somewhere, and be a part of something different? I have always thought that life must be one of travel. Traveling expands our knowledge, it takes us a step further than the books and pictures we see of places. It transports us into an environment where we can really know what these distant places are like, and it challenges us, not only physically, but mentally as we may have to shift how we see the world. I like to think that where we choose to go, reflects our individual passions, as our destinations tend to coincide with what we may be lacking at home or they are an extension of the life we already lead. Those initial seconds of being in a new place, as our eyes adjust to the sights, as our ears take in the new sounds, and as our feet move unknowingly, yet steadily forward, are my favorite moments of traveling. Regardless of why one finds themself on a plane or train to a distant place, the decision to travel leaves the door of experience wide open, and no matter how much of it we plan out, surprises always manage to find their way into any journey. But don’t worry, it’s usually in those surprise moments that the best memories are created. So travel. Experience the world, and immerse yourself in the excitement of the unknown. You’ll like it, I promise.
“Most of our life is a series of images. They pass us by like towns on the highway. But sometimes, a moment stuns us as it happens. And we know that this instant is more than a fleeting image. We know that this moment… every part of it… will live on forever.” — Lucas from One Tree Hill
I have recently been re-watching old episodes of One Tree Hill, and I forgot how much this show is a testament to life. It captures the simplicity and the beauty of the everyday, of the seemingly mundane pieces of life that most take for granted. I think what really kept me interested over the course of its nine seasons was its ability to take life, take the ordinary, and comment on how our relationships with each other reflect how we live and act in our own lives.
Oftentimes, it is in these everyday moments that an extraordinary one emerges. Take the life of the average person. That person has a family. They have friends. They interact with the world and move through it with an almost eerie sense of regularity. But then it happens. That stunning moment when the regular is turned on its head, when everything we are familiar with is challenged. And it always happens in the most unlikely of places, with the most unlikely of people, in the most unlikely of times. But then, when is life ever truly regular? No matter how hard we try to anticipate the slightest change, there is no lesson that teaches us to prepare for the stunning moments. And this is what the characters of One Tree Hill taught me. They taught me not to question the why’s and the how’s, because when we get lost in these questions, the moments slip by, and we miss out on something that could have changed our lives forever. Because you see, that’s the key, the most important part of the puzzle. We have to remember to hold on.